Services

In Memory of
Bobbette Cuffey Flamer
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Bobbette Cuffey Flamer, 81, went home to be with her Lord and Savior on Wednesday, September 8, 2021 in Houston, Texas. She was born on June 15, 1940 to Robert Reid Cuffey Sr. and Mary (Waddy) Cuffey as the oldest of three children and the oldest daughter to Robert.


Bobbette (Bobbie) was born and raised in Philadelphia, PA. She graduated from John Bartram High School in West Philadelphia. Bobbette had a love for music and dance and started a career in dance at a very young age. She started dancing professionally in high school, becoming the youngest dancer for the Philadelphia dance troupe Hortense Allen Dancers. She danced and toured with people like Sammy Davis Jr. and James Brown, socializing with the likes of Frank Sinatra. She was considered a Philadelphia socialite and a trendsetter who designed her own clothes. 


After retiring from the world of dance, Bobbette started working for the Court of Common Pleas for the Family Court Division.  It was during this time that she met and later married William H. Flamer in 1967. She and William gave birth to her only daughter and William’s fifth child, Bobbette Cuffey Flamer Jr., also known as “little Bobbette.” Bobbette also was stepmother to William’s four children from his first marriage. 


Bobbette and William separated and later divorced. Bobbette took on the challenges of raising her daughter as a single parent, often working 2 to 3 jobs to put her daughter through private school and assist her with paying for college. After retiring from the Philadelphia court system, Bobbette continued to work for group homes for men and women with developmental difficulties. She loved nurturing and supporting individuals who needed assistance. After retiring fully, she relocated to Houston, Texas with her daughter and her family.

Bobbette is survived by her only child Bobbette F. Trice and son-in-law Dr. Michael E. Trice who reside in Houston, Texas; her mother Mary Waddy Cuffey of Philadelphia, PA; her three grandchildren, Madison Arlene, Devin Brianna, and Braden Elijah; her siblings, brother Guy R. Cuffey his wife Lorraine M. Cuffey, of Philadelphia, PA and Guy’s children Rezna A. Cuffey  and Guy R. Cuffey, Jr., and step-daughter Donna Mitchel, half-sister Deborah (Cuffey) Jackson and her husband Mel Jackson of Brooklyn, NY and their daughter Cari (Jackson) Robinson, and half-brother Robert Cuffey, Jr. of Brooklyn, NY; her niece and nephew Kim Mosley and Brian Cuffey; stepchildren William Flamer, Jr., Kenneth Flamer and his wife Iris Flmer, Gregory Flamer, and Linda Flamer; and numerous cousins.


She is preceded in death by her father Robert Reid Cuffey Sr. and brother Derek Benjamin Cuffey (father to Kim and Brian).


She was a devoted mother and grandmother who loved cooking, playing and talking with her grandkids, watching period television shows with a strong female lead, and being a foodie. She is deeply missed and loved.