Sebastian J. Maliakkal

Uni Uncle was always a kind, welcoming presence to me as a child growing up in Texas. Unlike many elders in the family, he didn't take himself too seriously and was relaxed about the lines between generations. As a young kid I was a jokester, and he took it in good humor when I would poke his big belly or grab onto his mustache. Clearly, he was at peace with himself. His warmth and sense of humor was never put on, always relaxing. As a young man, I remember he and Elsi Aunty visiting New York and taking me to the New York Philharmonic. It was fun to see him dressed up in a tuxedo, participating in one of the wonders of global art. He came a long way from being a young man, sent north by his family, to provide for himself and those younger than him. His hard work in life created opportunities for his siblings that have redounded down to my generation. I am sure I would not be where I am today without his sacrifices. Thank you for everything, Uncle.

I first met Unnichettan & Elsichechi 29 years ago when I got engaged to Roy his youngest brother. Both of them were very welcoming and kind as I was trying to get used to living in the US and getting to know people in the large extended family. My favorite memory looking back is Unnichettan patiently teaching me how to drive and parallel park. I was terrified of going on the highway and would only drive in the neighborhood. One day Unnichettan told me to turn right and I did not realize that I was already on the highway, even though I was nervous, the very fact that I could drive on the highway, gave me the confidence that I could be able to drive here. Unnichettan and Elciechechi hosted our wedding in their house and the entire family was able to get together for the first time, He was a jolly person who was always smiling and always well dressed and happy. We have heard stories about him taking his youngest siblings to the movies, to buy new clothes and show them a good time when he visited them in Mangalore. He was generous and lived a good life. Praying that the family is comforted by all the good memories of him. May his soul rest in peace.

We last met Sebastian uncle in summer 2019 when he enthusiastically took us around looking for houses even in the COVID pandemic. From the time we met him, thirteen years ago, he has always been the only realtor we have preferred to go with. I believe that would make us his clients but there was more to that relationship, I was always struck by his humility, pleasant and friendly behavior to everyone.
We did not know that he was sick so this notice has been a complete shock. His smiling face is all I remember since I read about him yesterday.
I offer my condolences to his wife and children and surely he will rest in peace conscious that he has indeed lived a good life. He is in our thoughts and prayers and will continue to be an example of humility.